Unfortunately i can not write down the suitable discussion enders i had on my disposal in past debates or general conversations.
But it is a wonder and a kind of shame not being able to speak freely. Actually i would not call that freely but patiently. Because it is a fact that the best answers come when the discussion is over, we are relaxed and know all the facts that were presented at the discussion and all the possible outcomes of it. So all of a sudden we come with the “Answer of the Ages”. When we replay the conversation on our mind sometimes what makes the difference it is not even a sentence, just a question to the other person which can end the discussion before even it begins or even better, in case you are debating, give you the upper hand. Of course after all that thinking comes the worst part.
The worst part is mostly psychological. It is the try to memorise the previous situation and prepare all the appropriate answers. I could say that if it was possible, i would create a special room in my mind to keep just these. The sad truth is that, no matter how hard i try to memorise those answers, on the next occassion i react as if my mind gets electrocuted and all of a sudden everything is gone. I unexpectedly bring myself in a valnurable position where the only option is the defense.
I believe that confidence plays a major part in this matter and gaining some can improve things a lot.